Feb 13, 2012

Covet, Compare, Condemn

Covet, Compare and Condemn are three words that hang out together like friends who are teenage troublemakers, causing problems wherever they go. The Bible warns us not to covet, not only because of how our hearts will contort the thing we may covet but because of the contortions of relationships involved. In Exodus 20:17, the repeated warning is against coveting "your neighbor's" things. Not only is coveting a cancer for our spirit, it is a cancer in the fabric of relationships.

When we covet something, we usually end up comparing ourselves to the person who owns it. If it's a beautiful beach house, we may start thinking about the person who owns the house, and we size ourself up against that person. This is where condemnation comes in - because in our insecurities we either dismiss the other in some way (large or small) or we dismiss or condemn ourselves. It's a game that nobody wins, there's no life in it because their is no God in it. All the while our hearts and souls are eaten away by the desire for something that is not ours.

In time, if we seek in this challenging area, we will come to see that our problem is not in our possessions, but in our hearts. We begin to ask ourselves, "why do I want this thing so much?" or "why do I feel so inadequate by comparison?" We begin to realize that our difficulty lies in the fabric of our hearts that have sought contentment in outward things, (objects, people, recognition) instead of God - who alone can give our hearts the security and affirmation for which they long.

One of the most engaging things the apostle Paul wrote is that he had learned the secret of being content in all circumstances (Phil 4:12) - it wasn't based on good times or plentiful possessions. Well, this statement makes sense for Paul to say because his life had disappeared in the death of Christ and then in the resurrection of Jesus he had a new life - a life hidden in Christ and found in Christ. His identity was at rest here and his spirit found peace here - beyond circumstances or possessions or worldly observations and evaluations. And it bears noting; he was free.